Curtains

Army curtains are a unique design, designed for people with very particular taste.  It’s a good idea when you start living in army quarters to know what size your windows are and find some curtains which are easy on the eye, and don’t make your hangover worse when you see them!

(this picture by the way are not the army pattern, this is my idea of a pattern which is easy on eye!)

Feeling part of the furniture

Our first home happened to be a house which we own, when we bought it the decor hadn’t changed since the 70s so we spent many nights and weekends stripping the wallpaper, painting and laying floors.  It started out as a set of walls and become a labour of love.  Then just as soon as we’d made it comfortable we found out we’d be moving, so we rented out our first home and experienced our first army quarter.

When selecting your army quarter you have the choice to have an unfurnished, part furnished or fully furnished pad (you pay more for part or fully furnished).

For our first quarter we took quite a lot of furniture because we couldn’t afford to buy (still can’t!) and all our existing furniture needed to stay in our old house for our new tenants.  We took:

  • Sofa
  • Dining table and chairs
  • Bookcases
  • Side tables
  • Beds
  • Dressing table
  • Drawers

All our rooms had built in wardrobes (really great!) and generally there’s lots of storage. Mixed in with all the army issued furniture we have an eclectic selection of other furniture to make things feel more homely.  Most of this comes from charity and antique shops.  For our next move I’ll be updating our curtain set – I’ll be hunting the charity shops over the next few weeks!

Independence

It’s fair to say that I’m a pretty independent soul.  This, I believe, is a very positive thing.  However a strong independent streak can also be challenging, for yourself and also for those around you.

I have to be very conscious that not everyone share’s my overriding desire to be self-reliant.  In many relationships (both friends and romantic relationships) my independence has caused misunderstandings and challenges.  In fact right before I got together with my husband I’d resigned myself to the fact that I might never meet anyone who could handle my drive to be self-sufficient.

As it turns out I now have a good balance of maintaining my independence and ensuring it doesn’t get in the way of healthy relationships.  What I have learnt through being an army wife, particularly with a deployment on the horizon, is that independence is important.

To keep my independence I consciously make sure I’m doing things on my own, even if it’s just once a week.  Sometimes this is just being on a train journey, other times it’s a barefoot run on the beach.  For me the key thing is to keep up that inner strength so that when you need to face things alone, it’s easier.